Ideas for a Mindfulness Course

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I’m already teaching a mindfulness course via the iNLP Center. This post is to collect my thoughts on where we’re at and how to proceed.

I need more mindfulness techniques to add to the course. Here’s what we have so far. Perhaps the reader will find some use in reviewing them. Feel free to steal any ideas and use them in your own course!

Incidentally, the picture above features a bunch of funky glasses I bought to serve as an object lesson for the various perceptual filters we wear.

Ideas to Add to the Mindfulness Course

The 5-4-3-2-1 self-grounding technique. Here’s how this mindfulness method goes.

Please name:

  • Five things you can see right now.
  • Four things you can hear right now.
  • Three things you can feel right (inside or out).
  • Two things you can smell (or remember smelling).
  • One thing for which you are grateful right now.

Once you’ve named them, notice how you feel. Is it different than before? One idea is to rate how at peace you feel in the moment on a scale of 1-10. Do this once before and after the 5-4-3-2-1 method. If it worked, you’ll feel more at peace afterward.

If it doesn’t work, try it again. If it still doesn’t work, get some guidance. If that doesn’t work, toss the technique!

Belly Breathing is a Mind-Blow

Focus on the area four finger widths below the navel and in the center of the body. That’s it. Just rest your attention there and see what happens. The first time I did this, my mind blew. I couldn’t believe the relaxed pleasure that I felt.

This point – known as the 2nd Chakra in woo-woo terms – has always been there. Why do I joygasm when I put my attention there?

Add belly breathing to the mix and let the chillin’ begin!

These two methods are probably enough to get through this month’s three-hour mindfulness course. Thank for reading.

How to Help Clients With Low Self-Esteem

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As a Life Coach, you will be faced with the challenge of helping clients with low self-esteem. This might even be the reason that they hired you.

How do you help them?

First, you must have a deep understanding of what self-esteem means. More often than not, having high self-esteem is confused with narcissism.

Self-esteem can also be termed self-assessment. It is the beliefs about one’s self that have been developed since early childhood and can be either negative or positive. It is linked to self-worth, confidence, decision making, creativity, mental health, and will power.

Narcissism is the admiration of one’s self and physical appearance. It involves selfishness, lack of empathy, a sense of entitlement, and a need for admiration.

While both high self-esteem and narcissism can be described as a powerful belief in one’s self, holding the self in high regard, and being confident in one’s self, the difference is that narcissism can actually inhibit performance.

How can you tell if someone is narcissistic or has high self-esteem?

Those who are narcissistic do not hold themselves accountable when they make mistakes. They struggle with admitting that they are not always perfect and will not do what it takes to self-improve. This can affect their performance because their denial of failure can blind them from the lesson they need to learn in order to succeed the next time around.

Those with high self-esteem are confident enough to admit their mistakes and learn from them without beating themselves up over it. They see the lesson in the failure and are willing to try again. They believe in themselves enough to know that they can handle failure and constructive criticism without downward spiraling – as narcissists tend to do.

Having high self-esteem is important for those who are looking for ways to better their life. According to this study by the American Psychology Association, it may not be the exact key to overall happiness, but it can help those clients who have low self worth and no confidence.

What does low self-esteem look like in clients?

There are a few traits of low self-esteem that you can look for during your sessions with clients. Here are some:

  • The words I can’t. This indicates having low self-confidence and a disbelief that they are capable of achieving their goals. Have a look here for a highly effective NLP technique that can be used to help these clients.
  • Feeling shame or guilt after failure.
  • Negative feelings about themselves.
  • Irritation or hostility.
  • Being highly sensitive to critique.
  • Feelings of unworthiness or not feeling like they deserve better.

How to help.

As a coach, trainer, or mentor, it your responsibility to help clients overcome low-self esteem. Here are some ways to do so:

  • “Comparison is the thief of joy” – Theodore Roosevelt.

Once your client stops comparing their mistakes, accomplishments, physical appearance, etc – they will learn how to accept them. We often compare our unfinished rough draft of Chapter One, with someone else’s draft five, professionally edited, completed and published hardcover book. We don’t see other person’s struggles, failures, and pitfalls that they undoubtedly faced along the way. We are left feeling inadequate and incapable when in reality, that person we long to be has been exactly where we are at now. The difference is that they never gave up.

  • “I AM ENOUGH.”

Celebrity therapist Marisa Peer attributes her success in helping thousands of clients overcome some of the most extreme mental health issues by boiling everything down to one root cause: feeling like we aren’t enough. Does your client feel like they are enough as they are? If they have low self-esteem, then chances are, they do not. Marisa’s advice is to have the client write “I am enough” on their bathroom mirror, rearview mirror, or any other mirror they regularly look in. It serves as a constant reminder that they are enough, no matter where they are, what they are doing, or who they are with. You can have your client do this, or you can come up with your own unique way to have this reminder available to them whenever they need it. The truth is, we are all enough just as we are. Some of us just need to be reminded of it.

  • Gratitude.

Practicing gratitude daily might seem like a simple solution. However, it is far more complex and effective than you might expect. If you have your client write a list of 20 things about their life and about their self that they are grateful for, for 21 days, it rewires the brain to always look for what they can appreciate about life and about themselves. This leads to feelings of confidence, high self worth, and a higher self-esteem.

Dealing with Rude Students Q&A

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A trainer for one of the iNLP Center NLP Practitioner Training courses was having a hard time with a rude students. She asked for advice. Here is the rundown!

In the classroom, there is a student who intervenes and corrects the other students each time. of course I apologize later with those who have been corrected (at the end of the lesson in private) and I tried to make her understand that everyone has its time then I always leave space to those students and I say that it is a time for them now, but do you have some advice to give me?

This morning she was doing exercises with me and a new student intervened and rude she said she was asking the question to me and not to him. how do you solve when it happens?

Thanks for asking. Do the other students appear annoyed as well?

They were a little bit frustrated and i think they prefer not to participate when she’s there.

onsider that she’s enrolled in eng class and she asked to be allowed also in it live sessions, i don’t know if steve has the same problem with her because maybe in english she doesn’t speak so fluently

Ok must fix this – there are three steps:


1) Discuss with her in private – over phone or Skype and simply tell her the problem and ask her if she is aware of it. Make her aware and tell her it needs to stop. Tell her that from now on you will need to intervene in class if her rudeness continues (and other students are affected).

2) If the rudeness does not stop, you must follow through and confront her in class when it happens.

3) If it still doesn’t stop, then when it happens you must remove her from the class.

It doesn’t matter how good or bad her English is – if other students are affected then it must stop.

Ok. i tried in a gentle way but it was not sufficient because now when she’s there noone want to so simulation together

I appreciate you trying in a gentle way – now it seems like it is time to be less gentle:)

And tell her you will confront her rude behavior in class if it happens again.
Also tell her you will remove her from class if necessary – you can kick her out of class as the instructor

And moreover she’s not my student so she has her class, so I prefer to lose her not my serene students if I have to choose.

If you have to kick her out of class – tell the students that you have worked with her a lot and warned her this would happen so they don’t think you are overreacting.

She cannot be allowed to ruin other students class!

iNLP Center Review ~ In Search of a Deeper Neuro-Linguistic Programming

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The following is an iNLP Center review Kelli Cooper.

The iNLP Center course being reviewed can be found here:

The World’s Leading Online NLP Training & NLP Certification Institute

I focused on the introductory NLP module for this iNLP Center review.  In it, Mike Bundrant brought up an excellent point that I think can be applied to all aspects of life –something that I often give a lot of thought to in terms of my personal development.

Mike talked about being open to the underlying structure of NLP and not to be so rigid, merely focusing on the specific techniques outlined. To focus more on the principles, the essence, of what it is about. This can be helpful in so many regards.

iNLP Center Review ~ A Big Realization

I do a lot of work with Law of Attraction and I found that just doing all the techniques laid out for me without taking the time to really think about the concept and what was behind it left me frustrated. I did all the things the teachers told me to do but I was not getting results.

Reviewing the iNLP Center course helped me realize I was missing some core ingredients.

Like doing the self-examination to discover the blocks I had and analyzing my past thought patterns and results to see how I ended up where I did in specific situations. By looking deeper, I found greater success in applying LOA.

While conducting the iNLP Center review, I also came up with some of my own techniques that resonated with me very strongly. I gained a deeper understanding and shifted my perspective to one that is more conducive to happiness and success. My life changed!

We all want the techniques but when we focus all our energy on acquiring them without giving enough attention to the concepts behind them, we will stall our progress. Without doing the deeper self-examination, we will fail to make any significant changes in our lives.

Of course, techniques are an important part of any personal development tool.

We need a way to apply the information. Just knowing something will not be enough to make any significant change in our lives. Knowing is the first, vital step but doing is where it is at. We can read about ways to make our lives better until our eyes ache but if we do nothing with the information we acquire, it is all for naught.

But, I think when we come across new concepts, we sometimes overlook the very useful step of actually thinking more deeply about them, what they mean, what the message is, the bigger picture. We focus on the concrete steps given to us to implement and that is great, but when we just focus on the techniques, we often do not get the results we want.

We also overlook the sometimes uncomfortable process of self-examination. Being successful with NLP or any other program will always require us to do some work on ourselves, to question our current way of thinking, being and doing. I think studying NLP will help with that greatly. Again, just relying on techniques will not be enough.

When we give more thought to the concept we are trying to implement, the techniques will work better because we have a better understanding of what lies behind them.

When we have a better idea of the concept, it inspires us to come up with our own techniques and ways of operating that work better for us. We will have greater success.

This is not to say that we should automatically discard anything already laid out for us, because there is a good chance that is super helpful too, but we should also be open to experimenting and finding what works for us personally. We are all operating with different frameworks, ways of thinking and being and what works for one person may not work for another.

As I go through the NLP training (I officially enrolled after being invited to do this iNLP Center review), I will keep the iNLP Center message in mind very firmly. I am excited to use the techniques because they are what bridge the gap between knowing about something and applying it.

But I will be sure to put plenty of focus on the core of NLP, what it is all about, what it is saying about our behavior, perspective and way of being.  I am confident that this program can help me make significant changes in my life and I am looking forward to the journey.

The iNLP Center also offers life coaching certification, which can be found here:

https://inlpcenter.org/life-coach-certification-online

International Coach Federation Credentialing – Difference Among Levels MCC, PCC, and ACC

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Most people familiar with the field of life coaching have heard of the International Coach Federation (ICF). And many are aware of the three levels of ICF credentialing for individual life coaches.

This post is to clarify each level of ICF credential, including the ACC, PCC, and MCC levels. Carly Anderson’s website is the primary resource used to glean our information. Read her breakdown of ACC, PCC, and MCC here.

ICF core competencies such as establishing the coaching agreement are at the heart of every credential. However, different levels of proficiency and implementation style are expected as life coaches progress from ACC to PCC and eventually MCC.

Rather than detail each core competency, we’ll focus on how each ICF credential level seeks to apply them. iNLP Center life coach certification training intends to prepare students for every level of ICF credential.

ACC Credential Coaching Style

The ACC credential stands for Associate Certified Coach. This is the lowest level ICF credential for life coaches. The style of life coaching associated with the ACC credential is considered “transactional.”

Abiding by ICF life coaching staples like partnering and seeing the client as whole and resourceful, ACC-level coaching tends to focus on the “what” of coaching.

• What is your goal?
• What are the obstacles in the way?
• What can we do to help you move past the obstacle?

You might call ACC coaching strategic coaching. The atmosphere is one of partnering to come up with strategies for moving forward. At the heart of ACC-level coaching is the question, “How can you get what you want?”

Every session is intended to be a step closer to a goal.

PCC Credential Coaching Style

At the PCC level, strategic or transactional coaching factors in heavily, but at this level coaches are expected to see and incorporate who the client is into the coaching process.

Carly Anderson calls this coaching the who vs. coaching the what. A PCC-level life coach also notices the client’s personality qualities – the deeper nature of the client – with an ability to see positive traits and integrate them in helpful ways.

Coaching the who involves questions like these:

• What kind of person is this?
• How can the client’s positive qualities apply toward goals?
• Which positive elements of the client’s nature seem to be hidden?

At the PCC level, life coaches are expected to draw upon the positive elements of the client’s identity in order to forward the coaching past obstacles and toward goals.

MCC Credential Coaching Style

Master Certified Coaches (MCC) focus primarily on the who. These highest-level life coaches peer into your soul and see greatness. By consistently reflecting the positive qualities of your identity, MCC-level coaches facilitate an alignment of who you are with what you want to do.

According to Carly Anderson, MCC coaches focus exclusively on who you are and allow what you want to flow from there. Here’s a grossly simplified example of what that might look like.

You’re floundering. There are things you want to do with your life, but somehow you’re not motivated to do them. You procrastinate and then feel like a loser. You wonder if you’ll ever get it together and live the life you were meant to live.

You enter coaching with an MCC-level coach. Over the course of a relatively short time, you notice that your coach sees you differently than you see yourself, and perhaps differently than anyone has ever seen you.

Your coach sees your greatness. She seems to believe in you and not just because she’s a coach and that’s her job. In every session, you experience real evidence of your positive qualities. Being around someone who sees you in a different light is empowering. As you come to trust your coach, you slowly begin to believe in yourself and accept your positive qualities.

Soon enough, you adopt a new, much more empowering perspective on yourself and your life. Your sense of who you are is changing for the better. From this new position of strength, your previous issues with motivation vanish. Procrastinating doing what you want to do doesn’t seem to fit your new identity.

There’s no magic formula for coaching at the MCC level. It takes time to learn, but it’s not so much a concrete skill set. MCC coaching ability is character-driven. It’s more about who the coach is rather than what the coach can do.

Are you the kind of person who can:

• See greatness in others?
• Notice personal qualities as opposed to behaviors?
• Ground yourself compassionately in the moment with clients?
• See beyond a problems vs. solutions mentality?
• Do you love your clients as people?

Wrapping Up

• ACC coaches coach the what.
• PCC coaches coach the what and integrate the who.
• MCC coaches coach the who and allow the what to follow.